I am always very grateful for the suggestions and feedback I receive from readers, so the following is adapted from an email I received last week. You have probably read similar advice before, but here are some friendly reminders:

Some people embrace their golden years while others become bitter and surly, but life is too short to waste on the latter. We have good memories and bad ones, but the important thing is to make the best of the present.

Do moderate exercise (like walking every day), eat well and get plenty of sleep. Also, keep in touch with your doctor and do tests even when you are feeling well. Stay informed by reading newspapers and books, watching the news on television and going online.  Socialize as much as possible, but talk less and listen more. Respect the younger generation and their opinions, but make your own decisions. Give advice (when it’s requested) but avoid criticism (even when it’s justified). All that sounds simple, but it’s not easy! Also enjoy being alone, but don’t abandon your hobbies or friends. Find something you like doing and spend time having fun; ALWAYS keep your sense of humour.

Finally, if you’ve offended someone, apologize; if you’ve been offended by someone, forgive them. Someone once said: “Holding a grudge is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die.” Don’t take that poison, or drink bad wine!

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Penny Freeland is a British qualified counsellor and coach. Feedback and suggestions for future topics are always welcome. All communication will remain confidential.