Readers who have lived in the United Kingdom might remember listening to the weekly “Letter from America” on BBC radio. It was my favorite programme when I lived in England, which explains the title of this article as I am in America as I write this. However, I will be back in São Paulo before the next Spotlight reaches your home (or computer) so please get back in touch. I miss you all, and NEED feedback if these articles are to be of any use to the British Society.Read More
Dr. Michael Smith has begun this year with some optimistic news about a new drug that can delay and minimize the onset of Alzheimer’s disease. But, alas, Alzheimer’s can’t (yet?) be cured.
One of his suggestions: “getting plenty of exercise”, prompts me to remind readers of my recent “Walkie-Talkie” invitation. Although it has been very hot recently, I have already started walking with one friend on Wednesday mornings, and by the time you read this I hope the weather will have cooled down enough to encourage more of you to join us.Read More
Nothing is more valuable than time. Money can be lost and made again, but time spent (or wasted) can never be reclaimed. Therefore, don’t give your time away too easily. Instead, focus on what is important and/or pleasurable, and ignore the rest. One technique (perhaps the only one I have mastered myself!) is to learn to delegate as much as possible. Instead of asking: “How can I do this task?” try asking: “How can this task get done?” and accept that good enough is good enough. Forget perfectionism!Read More
Many of us crave solitude. In fact it was the focus of my dissertation back in 1997, and I still agree with most of it! In brief, solitude is restorative and peaceful when desired. However, undesired solitude soon turns to loneliness, which is increasingly becoming a worldwide epidemic.Read More
Compared with other basic human needs, the purpose of sleep had remained elusive until the explosion of scientific discoveries over the past 20 years. Research has now proved the importance of dreaming (always one of my interests) as a means to mollify painful memories and to inspire creativity and wellbeing.Read More
I am often asked to explain why people come to counselling. Is it for advice? No. Is it to solve an existential problem? Is it a kind of confession? No, no and no!! The aim of counseling is to help clients discuss their own feelings, values and ideas so as to make their own decisions in a safe, unbiased and neutral environment.Read More
I am always very grateful for the suggestions and feedback I receive from readers, so the following is adapted from an email I received last week. You have probably read similar advice before, but here are some friendly reminders...Read More